Marriage Is Compromise

Marriage is compromise! Nobody gets everything they want from their partner all the time but as the Rolling Stones song says, “you can’t always get what you want but if you try sometime you just may find you get what you need.” Remember nobody is...

Too Much Love

“You love me so much, you want to put me in your pocket. And I should die there smothered.” D.H. Lawrence “Demanding too much togetherness in romantic relationships tends to push people away and kill their desire.” Gerry Lane, LCSW,...

When is Less Emotion Good?

The less emotionally reactive each spouse is to the other the healthier the relationship. If one spouse reacts with strong emotion to the smallest change the other spouse makes for some freedom then either the couple fights openly and creates distance or the spouse...

Favorite Quotes

“Seldom, or perhaps never, does a marriage develop into an individual relationship smoothly and without crises; there is no coming to consciousness without pain.” Carl G. Jung “It is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel...

Couples Counseling

Marriage Counseling is a different animal than Individual Therapy. Individual Therapy focuses far more on the internal cognitive processes and helps the person examine personal choices. In Couples Counseling the focus is on the interaction between partners. The...

Some Thoughts on Marriage

A marriage without fidelity provides no security or real intimacy! In marriage two wrongs don’t make a right but make a good excuse. The narcissist misses the great pleasure of life, which is to love another as much as he loves himself. Gerry Lane, LCSW, LMFT....